It’s wild to me that people who know they have BPD and know they lie and manipulate all the time will insist you “trust” them about things, even though you don’t ever engage them on whether you believe they’re trustworthy or not. I guess that’s one of the reasons experts insist on the “gray rock” method of dealing with borderlines. Anything and everything you say at them, you say it robitically and without any passion or emphasis. Zero emotion whatsoever. This includes not pointing out that they’re lying, because it’s guaranteed to shut everything down. Are they lying? Of course, their lips are moving. Does it benefit you at all to express your disbelief? No, it never mattered in the first place. Not to them, not to you; it doesn’t matter. They’re not doing DBT workbooks. You don’t matter enough for them to tell the truth, no matter who you are to them. Worst of all, their own kids don’t even matter enough to them to get the truth. They’ll lie to and gaslight their own children and inevitably push their own kids away. My kid is eleven and he knows when he’s being lied to. He knows more than the borderline thinks he knows, and she still lies to him. He knows it’s not right, it makes him cry. Will she ever get her shit together and start doing therapy honestly? No, not in a million fucking years, she’s so used to taking the easy way out of everything that it’s just pathetic.

I hope for his sake she can pull her head out of her own ass some day, though. She sent me a picture of a thermostat and it was goddamned filthy, and I’m thinking to myself; “This is just the thermostat. I can’t imagine what the rest looks like. Jesus.”

I just needed to vent. Man, there’s so much messed up stuff going on.